St Matthew’s Primary School

Dear Parents and Carers

I hope the term has ended well for you and your family. I know the children and staff are keen to have a break and recharge their batteries. A fellow teacher once told me that Term Two is the hardest term of the year because you are moving into Winter. I hope that thought might fill you with some optimism for the remainder of the year.

We are hopeful that much of the noisy, dusty demolition work in Stage Two will be completed during the next two weeks, while everyone is off site.

I would like to thank those teachers who have been asked to relocate to another learning space for their patience and good humour. The children have quickly adapted and are enjoying the excitement associated with the move.

There will be some additional changes to access points as the new term begins. Once again, we will communicate these changes to you when they are finalised and in operation.

Congratulations
I would like to offer our congratulations to those children in our school who received the sacrament of Confirmation on Tuesday evening. The chief presider was Archbishop Christopher Prowse who concelebrated the mass with Fr Simon Falk.

The celebration is the end point in a thorough preparation which included a retreat with the children of St Vincent’s Aranda and class preparation.

Thank you also to the two Yr 6 teachers, Hannah Beissner and Daniel Hunt who were ably supported by our acting REC, Sam Hornby.

Change of Sports Uniform Day
From next term children will be asked to wear their Sports Uniform on Tuesday and Friday (moved from Thursday).

This will allow the children to be appropriately dressed when our new Sports Teacher begins his role at the beginning of Term Three.

Farewell and Thankyou
I would like to wish Mrs Anne Hodgkin and Mrs Michelle Roberts every happiness as they begin new chapters in their life. Our staff had an opportunity to thank Anne at a luncheon on Wednesday. The children also farewelled both ladies at Morning Assembly during this week.

Replacements for these teachers, especially our Japanese Teacher, will be announced when they are finalised at the beginning of next term.

First Day Term Three
Just a reminder that school will resume on Tuesday July 18th following the Term Two holidays.

Have a lovely, restful break and enjoy the company of your children.

May God bless you and your families this week.

Graham Pollard
Principal

Dear Parents and Carers,

Friendology 101

Research shows that relationships are the heart of wellbeing and learning. When we get friendships right in schools, children flourish! As a URSTRONG School, St Matthew’s has experienced amazing success this year with our students in terms of creating a culture of kindness. Post-COVID, we discovered that our students were having real difficulties with making and keeping friends. The URSTRONG program has provided teachers with a friendship skills curriculum that has helped our students establish and maintain healthy relationships, manage conflict with kindness, and increase their overall resilience.

You are invited to take advantage of a FREE Parent Membership to access hundreds of resources – including an 8 session video series. This will allow you to learn the same language & strategies being taught in the classroom through the Friendology 101 curriculum. We hope that, as a URSTRONG Family, you will reinforce the important messages of empowerment, self-compassion, & kindness at home.

Here is an article by Dana Kerford, the founder of URSTRONG – an example of the great advice you can find as a member of URSTRONG:

Helicopter Parenting. Bubble-wrapped kids
We know we shouldn’t solve all our children’s problems for them. But, when should we get involved?

We all know that when life is hard, when we struggle, when things aren’t easy… These are the times we learn the most about ourselves. These are the times we dig deep and we come out the other end stronger than we were before.

Conflict is a normal part of the human experience, yet we see parents panic when they witness their child experiencing conflict with a friend. We see parents jump in, trying to solve the problem for their kids, offering a series of suggestions. We hear about parents calling principals and teachers, insisting their child is being “bullied” and demanding that something be done. There’s an immediate discomfort, aversion, and fear of conflict even for ourselves, but amplified (times a million) when it’s our children experiencing it. Is it because we read that book or that article and think of the devastating effects of bullying? Perhaps we are taken back to the day we went through that heartache ourselves and want to save our children from our same mistakes?

How do we strike that perfect balance of allowing our children to develop the skills to be resilient in the face of conflict, yet give them a hand when they need it? When do we need to step in and when do we need to step back?

Here are a few basic guidelines to help you find that perfect balance of being a Friendship Coach, yet not playing the game for your child:

Step back when your child experiences a Friendship Fire® (our term for conflict with a friend) that can easily be put out; it’s a little thing that your child can easily solve. For example, your child is upset because their friend didn’t let them test out their new toy. Consider saying something like, “That sounds like a Friendship Fire®. Find the right time to talk to your friend and let them know how it made you feel. You can do this!”

Your reaction should match the situation. If it’s a small conflict, your reaction should also be small. A disproportionate reaction will make something small even bigger and your child might need the modelling to keep things in check. If your child has a tendency to make it bigger and indulge in the negative feelings, continue to minimize it and remind them they can do it.

Step in when any of the following situations happen:

You can see your child’s self-esteem being affected,
You can see the issue is weighing on them and they can’t shake it; it’s consuming them,
You feel your child doesn’t have the skills to come to a resolution and things are getting worse,
Their reaction doesn’t match the situation, suggesting there’s more to the story,
Your child doesn’t feel safe,
Your gut instinct tells you something is up!

If any of these things are happening, this is when you need to step in and give them lots of guidance and support. Empathise with your child and give very practical, step-by-step things they can do to make it better. Like a coach, give them strategies to put into practise. Keep your ideas easy and simple and check in with them at the end of each day to see how it went. When you encourage them to try something, let them know, “And, if that doesn’t work, no problem! We’ll come up with a new plan!”

Most importantly, be that person they can talk to, rely on, who will comfort them during this hard time. Don’t solve their problems for them, don’t call the other kid’s parents (here are 10 reasons why!), but give them little, bite-sized challenges to help them work through the conflict. For example, “It sounds like things are hardest with Evie at recess time. How about tomorrow, you volunteer in the library at recess time. Give it a try!”

And, if after all of that, your child is still struggling and things are getting worse… This is when the parents and teachers need to work together AS A TEAM and come up with deeper interventions. The safety and happiness of our children are always a top priority.

Petra Cole
Assistant Principal
petra.cole@cg.catholic.edu.au

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Happy birthday wishes to Curtis J, Alastair M, Ivy C, Jetsuen P, Lucas M, Sienna G, Yasmin F, Philippa H, Jessica B, Oscar G, Lottie B, Alexander F, Jacob G, Ehtan W, who recently celebrated birthdays and to the following children celebrating birthdays in the school holidays, Henry R, Isaac W, Vasillis N, Abigail D, Abeer M, Julijana I, Sven C, Lucas P, Imogen O, Arthur M, Meisha Z, Elsie H, Avalyn P and Alexander N.

If you are looking for some ideas to entertain the children these school holidays, please check out the Libraries ACT program, which can be found here. There are lots of great options throughout the holiday period. Please ensure you register through the Libraries ACT website.

All families have received their log in details via email for our new Compass Parent Portal. The Compass Parent Portal is an online portal that allows you to interact with the school and access up-to-date information. Once you have your log-in credentials and download the app, you’ll be able to: